It has been five months since the US began the shutdown process due to coronavirus.
I recall that on March 5th, when I flew to New York City to briefly visit my family, the airplane was full.
On March 9th, when I flew back to Southern California, the airplane was mostly empty and people were disinfecting the seats and armrests before sitting down.
According to stats this morning, 180,000 people in the United States have died due to coronavirus.
The population of the US was approximately 328.2 million in 2019. Therefore, about 0.05% of the population has passed away so far.
If someone close to you has passed, I’m so sorry. I’m wishing you as much peace as possible while you move through your grieving process. And I’m wishing your loved one all the beauty on the other side.
Of course, this is just one stat related to COVID-19. There are incalculable other effects of the virus, and effects on peoples’ lives based on how the power structures in this country have handled it.
But in addition to the immense pain and loss, I am hearing some of the most powerful revelations.
One friend has realized she must live closer to nature, she must be with the trees and sky… she’s given her notice and is arranging that move.
Another person I recently worked with finally acknowledged the toxicity of their workplace, and is now committed to never returning to an environment like that, even when things do “open up” again.
Some parents I know are completely rethinking education for their children. They’re asking deep questions about what’s truly important for their kids, and how they can work with their local community to build something entirely different than the typical school model.
What I’m saying is, reality as we knew it is over.
And that’s okay.
It’s okay because it has to be. Because it’s what IS, and to argue with what IS, is insane.
Now you get to design a more truthful life. Now you get to recreate reality.
As I write this, I imagine that some of you readers will find this a bit too idealistic. You’ll immediately argue for how out-of-control things are, and how you can’t possibly affect any change in this circus of a world.
That’s your stress/anxiety/fear/trauma talking.
You always have choices.
Even if you were bound in a straight-jacket, locked in a cage, you’d be able to choose where to look with your eyes. You’d be able to choose how to breathe.
Stress/trauma/overwhelm says, “You’re totally screwed, there’s nothing you can do to help yourself.” Trauma can feel like a death sentence to your sovereignty.
But you always have choice… even when you can’t see it, it’s still there.
In my trauma resolution work, when I am in a session with someone who feels trapped, I encourage them to notice the choices they can make.
Okay, so you have less money, but you still have choice about whether to buy a can of kidney beans or navy beans, right?
Okay, so you are being evicted, but you still have choice about which furniture you will keep, who you will ask to stay with, where you’ll research living next, right?
Okay, so you lost your job, but you still have choice about how you will seek out future money, and what little moves you could make today to get more info.
Once you get the hang of acknowledging smaller choices, you will strengthen that choice muscle, and you’ll lift your gaze higher.
You’ll see more and more choice on the horizon.
Even though this time is uber-scary for many, it’s also a time of massive opportunity to create a very new reality, personally and collectively.
This happens one choice at a time.
Which new choices will You make today?
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